Two Things to Consider Before Marriage

Interested in being married? Here are a couple things to think about.

In an earlier post I mentioned that I often pray with my hands open. This is to show I’m ready to receive from God, and also willing for him to take something away. To me it’s a perfect posture of faith, like I’m demonstrating the prayer, “your will be done on earth as it is in heaven.”

1. Who’s Your Matchmaker?

Are you familiar with the movie, Fiddler on the Roof? I remember the look of horror on the unmarried girls’ faces during the matchmaker scene, when they realized that if they weren’t careful they could be “stuck for good” in a difficult marriage.

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They helped convince me I’d better be careful where I place my trust with such an important choice.

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight” (Proverbs 3:5-6 NIV).

2. What’s in Your Hand?

The hardest season of my life to trust God was while waiting for my future husband to appear. I’d pray, referring to my long list of desirable husband attributes, careful to point out the ones I was sure God would agree with. I also reminded him of the passing of time.

I’m glad I loosened my grip on both my list and my time frame for marriage. If I could believe God loves me, why couldn’t I believe he would bless me no matter what my marital status or age?

I turned my focus to serving God and others with my whole heart. I thought the most awesome thing would be for my future husband to find the real me in action, and not someone trying to be something else.  It’s one of those choices I’ve never regretted, because I have the comfort knowing he wants and loves me as I am.

by Kathy Sheldon Davis




By Kathy Sheldon Davis

Kathy Sheldon Davis, contributing author of the books "Jesus Talked to Me Today" and "Seeking His Presence," and a finalist for the Oregon Christian Writers Cascade award, lives with her husband, Jerry, in Junction City, Oregon. Kathy enjoys mentoring and editing for other writers, making strangers into friends, and celebrating holidays with her extended family. She has also written for Warner Press since 2016 and posts devotions on her blog at .

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