Judging Others – Luke 6:37

Do you size people up when you walk into a room? I do. It’s important to be aware of our surroundings, but sometimes I take it too far.

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A few years ago, I took in a scene at a pizza restaurant and passed judgment on a woman I’d never met.

Our three boys marched between the tables, their pace accelerating to the point I thought they might trip over themselves as they approached the play area. As Jerry led me toward an empty table, I took a glance at a woman seated nearby.

Here’s what I saw

  1. She was large.
  2. She was alone. There was no sign of someone else’s belongings on the seat to indicate anyone accompanied her.
  3. She was eating a piece from a huge, family size pizza.
  4. She didn’t appear to be happy.

I concluded the woman must be a person who was out of control with her eating and her life, that she worships food and thinks only of herself. And I went so far as to judge her as someone I wouldn’t want for a friend.

Why do we judge?

Jesus said, “Do not judge by appearances, but judge with right judgment” (John 7:24 ESV).

He also said, “Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven” (Luke 6:37 ESV).

The truth might actually be

  1. She was enjoying pizza in celebration of an 80-pound weight loss.
  2. She had been fasting, or this was her first meal in a long time.
  3. She would eat one piece and save the rest for later.
  4. She needed a kind word from a friend.

The scriptures tell me if I judge I must be careful how I do it. One definition I found says judging is forming an opinion after careful thought. I hadn’t given much thought to the woman’s reality. And I certainly wasn’t looking at her with God’s love and compassion.

It’s possible she may be far ahead of me in her walk with God. She may be withstanding trials and hardships and remaining true to her faith far better than I am at the moment. There was probably much I could learn from her.

Since it was decades ago, and I don’t remember what she looked like, she could be one of my dear friends today. If that is true, I’m sure if she passed judgment on me that day, she is forgiving. How could we be friends if she wasn’t?

by Kathy Sheldon Davis

By Kathy Sheldon Davis

Kathy Sheldon Davis, contributing author of Jesus Talked to Me Today and a finalist for the Oregon Christian Writers Cascade award, lives with her husband, Jerry, in Oregon's fertile Willamette Valley. Kathy enjoys mentoring and editing for other writers, making strangers into friends, and celebrating holidays with her extended family. She has written for Pathways—Moments with God since 2016 and posts devotionals on her blog at kathysheldondavis.com .

6 comments

  1. If I catch myself being judgmental, I remind myself that I would not want to be judged with the same measuring stick I apply to others. That helps me get my thoughts back on the right track. Thanks, Lynn.

  2. Beautiful. Almost every day I ask Jesus to help me not judge others. Psalm 24:3-4 says,
    “Who may ascend into the hill of the Lord? Or who may stand in His holy place? 4 He who has clean hands and a pure heart . . .” So many people are dealing with unseen battles! I want to be compassionate like Christ.

  3. Kathy, we all do this one way or another. I wonder if we are actually through with this issue of judgment. I wouldn’t wear my hair that way, or I wouldn’t be caught dead in that dress or, or or. Good article. It makes one think.

  4. Loved your article about not judging others. It is thought-provoking for those of us who tend to make judgments “at first glance”–rather than having a heart of mercy and realizing things aren’t always as they seem, and that God looks at the heart and knows all the reasons why. Thank you, Kathy. Blessings, your fellow writer and Sister in Christ, Kathy Ruckman

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