It could be God’s fault. Sometimes he hides things from us. Perhaps we have trouble understanding our spouse’s mind because God has closed a door. But why would he do that? Why should understanding be locked up?
Maybe it’s all about timing.
It’s so hard when no matter how much we love someone or how hard we try, understanding can remain out of our reach. The most difficult part is remaining in that state without getting angry, or casting blame, or withdrawing our love.
I did all of those things when, at the onset of menopause, my emotions became unstable. I would calmly start discussing my concerns with my husband, but discord would escalate to the point where neither of us could sort it out. There was no making sense of it.
I learned in 2 Kings this morning that some of our befuddlement might be God’s design.
The prophet Elisha prophesied that the Shunammite woman would have a son, and it came to pass the following year. But God hadn’t told him everything.
So she (the Shunammite) set out and came to the man of God at Mount Carmel. When the man of God saw her coming, he said to Gehazi his servant, “Look, there is the Shunammite. Run at once to meet her and say to her, “Is all well with you? Is all well with your husband? Is all well with the child?” And she answered, “All is well.”
And when she came to the mountain to the man of God, she caught hold of his feet. And Gehazi came to push her away. But the man of God said, “Leave her alone, for she is in bitter distress, and the Lord has hidden it from me and has not told me” (2 Kings 4:25-27 ESV).
Why would the Lord hide things from us? In verse 27 we see the prophet told his servant to leave the woman alone. Time needed to pass before her issue and its answer would be known.
From my previous posts it looks like I’m really hung up on this trust thing, but I’m convinced that’s what living life with God is all about.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight. Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord and turn away from evil. It will be healing to your body and refreshment to your bones” (Proverbs 3:5-9 NASB).
For me and my husband, and like the prophet Elisha, it takes time and trust to reach the place of understanding. Trusting God is the unlocked door to healing and refreshment.
by Kathy Sheldon Davis