How to Help a Writer – Proverbs 18:24

You’ll find them everywhere, those weird people who get a thrill out of spending hours alone to put words together until they are “just right”. You may not understand why all this time and effort are important to the writer in your life, but here’s how you can help.

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  1. Listen. Offer your listening ear, even when you have little interest in the subject. Sometimes writers need a sounding board to help them sort out what’s brewing in their minds. You can provide that for your writer friend.
  2. Don’t listen. We all have our limits, so allow yourself the freedom to detach from talk about plot, felt needs, or a character’s issues. Take care of yourself so you can be a good friend, by gently letting them know when you’ve had enough.
  3. Read. Again, it can be difficult to wrap your mind around something a writer hands you that you have no desire to read. Give it a shot, anyway.
  4. Don’t read more into the writing than what it says. Just because your friend’s primary character has a black, curly-haired dog like your Fifi, and everyone in his story hates the dog, doesn’t mean he holds those feelings toward yours.
  5. Offer feedback, but put on a thick skin first. She may not agree or choose to implement your suggestions. Hearing your response is valuable, anyway. You don’t have to convince her your viewpoint is right, offer it and leave it for her to process as she wishes. That’s your gift to her.
  6. Don’t give feedback. Friendship is a dance, isn’t it? Sometimes watching a writer percolate his thoughts is entertaining in itself. He may not want or need your feedback, but paying attention can reap benefits in a relationship. Maybe he’ll take you out for ice cream or go skydiving with you once he’s done with his work for the day. (Note: I’m not available on skydiving day.)

A final point

I want to thank my husband Jerry for supporting and encouraging me, and my critique partners who give me their best. These friends are faithful to give me honest input, even adding a little sugar coating to make it easier for me to swallow.

Thank you for not being afraid to watch me squirm. And thanks for the ice cream, too.

“A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother” (Proverbs 18:24 ESV).

by Kathy Sheldon Davis

By Kathy Sheldon Davis

Kathy Sheldon Davis, contributing author of the books "Jesus Talked to Me Today" and "Seeking His Presence," and a finalist for the Oregon Christian Writers Cascade award, lives with her husband, Jerry, in Junction City, Oregon. Kathy enjoys mentoring and editing for other writers, making strangers into friends, and celebrating holidays with her extended family. She has also written for Warner Press since 2016 and posts devotions on her blog at .


  1. Thank you Kathy for writing this blog on how to help a writer. I found your six points enlightening, and re. the final point of appreciation, I want to thank YOU for your support in my writing, for your helpful critiques at critique group that are also sprinkled with sugar. 🙂

    Thank you for your encouragement to be faithful to the pen, and for planning lunches for our “fellowship of writers,” as sisters in ink, and sisters in Christ. We put our noses to the grind, but we have FUN too! Blessings… Kathy Ruckman 🙂 (comment posted at her request)

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